Sometimes, i do understand the motive of doing so or more of knw the reason... Some might argue it is merely juz true love, but still frm wht i feel it is juz loneliness ...
And often due to the breakup, the loss of the other party makes it very unbearable, making us vulerable, den come to a pt of loss of self-assurance and den comes to doubting one's presense and value. Many will also miss the physical interaction between for the warmth still lingers within memories. All the sweet-nothings and accumalative dreams made with tht loss one smashed to bits, life den loses its goal for that might be wht they been pinning for. With all these added up, humans tend to seek the easy way out. To have another relationship with what is available for the temptation still so alluring and easy to follow ... Do not misunderstand at tis pt of me trying to criticize .. But it is juz an analysis of how humans will react to such breakdown. At this pt, many will deny, but still it will be in the sub-consious mind.

But upon feelin such emotions, wht i feel is that one should really try to remote oneself out of tht situation and re-evaluate the reasons of the failure. And from tht, one can only escape the vicious cycle of repeating the same mistakes again and again. I said b4, failures are meant for growth, hence for each failure encountered, it is time for a break to rest one soul, mind and body. From tht break, one will be able to be well and also grow well to a better individual. If one is able to be calm after all tht rest, it will den be time to re-evaluate onself of wht can he/she contribuate to any near relationship. I knw i am no relationship expert, but seriously after been through some internal debates and issues i knw i hve grown up to a better person.
And for tht, when it comes to accepting any new relationship, i would often ask myself " Am i ready ? " , " Am i able to contribuate to the relationship ?". And oftenly enuff, i knw i cant contribuate anything .. for i refuse to give up my freedom and carefree lifestyle tht i lead now. And knwing myself, I become much more selfish on unwillin to compromise the things i wan den the other party's needs. Within the whole period of 1 yr and hlf, mistakes were being noted, wounds being slowly stitched up, though not as perfectly as it seems, but at least it doesnt hurt. Lessons being learnt, adjustions being made. Learnt to appreciate loneliness, learnt to appreciate internal peace and silence, learnt to appreciate company. Adjusted to grow up, adjusted to mature and let things be ...

As for the friend, who i tok about tokkin. If you do read this, please do not be offended. But if you do still feel doubt with the current relationship u r in, do knw tht nothing is more impt than yourself and ur thoughts. And if u do need a listening ear, a shoulder to lean or even an lousy advisor, I will be here okie ...

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